“I don’t know why I can’t figure it out.”
“That seems like a lot.”
“I don’t know if I can commit to that.”
“It just doesn’t seem to be working for me.”
Those are just a few of the random quotes I remember from times when I have watched and listened as clients, athletes, and coaches quit on whatever their goal was at the time. Let me start by saying there is absolutely nothing wrong with quitting; not every attempt is meant to be successful. There is, however, something wrong with being dishonest about WHY you’re quitting.
You don’t quit because you CAN’T do it. You quit because you never WANTED to do it in the first place.
If I told you “Complete these 3 tasks and you’re guaranteed a billion dollars”, you would probably do whatever it takes for an infinite amount of time to earn that money. Why? You want it. So, you’ll do whatever it takes to make it happen. Now, if I said “complete these 3 tasks and you’re going to be in better shape (stronger, leaner, faster, etc.), but it will require you to continue to work hard after the fact to maintain it”….now THAT is a different story.
Most people, and I am speaking strictly from my experience as a coach, don’t want to be in better shape permanently. They want to be in better shape for a few choice moments coming up, and then they’re okay with letting it slide until it is important again. I.E: Beach season, wedding, reunion, milestone age. The people that truly CARE about their health and ability tend to be the people that have at some point had it threatened or taken from them. The old, the injured, the sick. That or they have something riding on it, like an athletic scholarship or a paycheck. What happens to those people is that they officially have a reason to take this sh*t SERIOUSLY. They see the purpose and the need to succeed in their training so they invest the full time, energy, resources they can into making it happen. When you truly care about something and want it to be successful, you TRY. You CARE. You EARN it. Lo and Behold, people who take it seriously tend to get more out of their training experience, which of course makes them crave more success, which leads to them training harder, eating healthier, and making sure they get to bed at a decent hour.
True or False: It is not a secret that water and veggies help you become and remain healthier and stronger. ANSWER: TRUE.
True or False: Weightlifting and Cardio are known to help you become and remain healthier and stronger. ANSWER: TRUE.
So, my next question is, if we all know that regular exercise and healthy eating are necessary to have a healthy, awesome life, then why is it so damn hard to convince people to do it? Here’s my thought…It’s because most people have found ways to be successful DESPITE their health and habits, so therefore it’s okay to put those things on the back burner. Drink all weekend, eat like crap, deprive yourself of sleep, repeat. Meanwhile, workout hard enough that you feel accomplished, but not hard enough to feel challenged. That way, there is no sense of failure and therefore, no threat that we may need to work HARDER aka take this a bit more seriously.
If you want to change, good. Do it. Just know that if you truly want to change, you need to TAKE IT SERIOUSLY. It’s a priority, not a hobby. It will take time, it will be hard, it will suck at times, but it is all part of the process. Take it seriously and you’ll see the rewards of it.